September 2011
“There are so many tiny revolutions in a life, a million ways we have to circle around ourselves to grow and change and be okay. And perhaps the body is our final frontier. It’s the one place we can’t leave. We’re there till it goes. Most women and some men spend their lives trying to alter it, hide it, prettify it, make it what it isn’t, or conceal it for what it is. But what if we didn’t do that?”
—DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #86: Tiny Revolutions - The Rumpus.net (via she-thinks)
I have this sneaking suspicion that even the women who are saying “love your body! every body is beautiful!” or “I actually do really love my body!” are sometimes also the women who sometimes post pictures of skinny girls on their blogs and wish to look like them or who skip dinner sometimes when they’re going to go out that night in an aim to cut calories.
My point is, sometimes I feel like we know, we know in our words that we should be healthy and that the thinness standard of most media is shit and that eating disorders are heart-breakingly awful, but we aren’t internalizing it enough. I think we really do mean the good things we say, but it can still be hard to live that out. And I hate that. I wish for us all to internalize body-positive rhetoric more, I want us to live it.
“Worship this world of watercolor mood
in glass pagodas hung with veils of green
where diamonds jangle hymns within the blood
and sap ascends the steeple of the vein.” —sylvia plath (via silktrees)
in glass pagodas hung with veils of green
where diamonds jangle hymns within the blood
and sap ascends the steeple of the vein.” —sylvia plath (via silktrees)
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We’ve created this aura around virginity as if one’s virginity is a real and tangible thing—but of course it isn’t. Sex and virginity are socially constructed concepts. Are you a virgin if you engage in oral sex? Are you a virgin if you’ve kissed a girl? Are you a virgin if it was just the tip? Are you a virgin if your hymen breaks from tampon-insertion?
In my opinion, our obsessive focus on virginity and sexual purity doesn’t serve anyone. Losing one’s virginity is not an event; it’s a process.
” —John Green, via this post
posting because chopping down socially constructed ideas of virginity is always a plus with me, but omg, also the fact that he says “Are you a virgin if it was just the tip?” is so specific and sort of icky in a “this would never be in a teen magazine” way that I kind of love him for putting that in his answer.
Sometimes I feel like I want a daughter (eventually) just so that I can teach her to be a strong, kind, intelligent female.
Then I remember that I still have so much to learn myself.
Went to Pretty Lights last night. Because sweaty, pumped, chemically-facilitated fun with good friends is one of the best things to experience when you’re young.
Bought Skrillex tickets this morning.
Don't you just love when things suddenly work out & your day gets 100% better?
Live a good life. If there are gods and they are just, then they will not care how devout you have been, but will welcome you based on the virtues you have lived by. If there are gods, but unjust, then you should not want to worship them. If there are no gods, then you will be gone, but will have lived a noble life that will live on in the memories of your loved ones.
Marcus Aurelius (via postponelife)
Went to my first feminist club meeting today.
Congratulating myself for following through on my claim that I want to get more involved. Woo.
“No one pisses me off more than women anti-feminists; they’re selling us all down the river for a pat on the head from men.”
—Jessica Valenti (via)
